"Why Do People ALWAYS Blame?"

Have you always wonder why people always blame something or someone if things go wrong?

Like for instance, perhaps the most common of them all...The case of the public blaming the government for flaws in there methods of running the country. This is a reality more common in the "Third World" countries than anywhere in this beautiful planet of ours. As the description "Third World" states, these are the countries which have a relatively unsatisfactory level of living standard; there are more poor people than rich people, crimes ran rampant in the community, hunger is common and so on and so forth...As a result, dissatisfaction by the people emerges and so comes the endless complaints. But of course, let's just be realistic...of course who in their right mind wouldn't do something when he is experiencing hunger and injustices? That's why democracy and liberty were created in the first place right?

Another good example is a fact common to every living person in the planet. I know all of us are guilty when a certain scenario of "things going smoothly until someone comes and ruin everything" occurs. For instance, let's make couples our main example. I know most of us experienced "jealousy" and "third parties" in the span of a romantic relationship. With that being said, now I want you to visualize yourself being into a relationship with a person you really love. At first, everything is going too well...romantic dinner dates, sweet and touching exchange of words and of course the kisses and the you know what that may eventually happen between the two of you. Suddenly...BOOM! A dude or chick comes in and take away your moment. The seemingly endless romance and affection you both share slowly (or quickly) diminishes until the inevitable breakup happens (Keep in mind that this fact is also common to married couples) After all have been said and done, we undergoes a series of depressing days blaming the newcomer or ourselves or whoever we can to keep ourselves at ease.

If I were to cite out other examples of blaming cases, this would be a rather very long list so I'll just cut to the chase instead. It is indeed in our nature to avoid responsibilities that are not beneficial for us and I'm quite sure most (if not all) of us are guilty of this fact.We tend to avoid facing problems and rather take the easy way to overcome it. Not realizing that by doing this, we generate a negative attitude towards our own self-esteem and our own perspective of things. Thus this is one of the many factors that lead us to blaming.

So before we jump into conclusions I just want to cite out certain realistic reflections that may help us in realizing the question "Why Do People ALWAYS Blame?"

1. First, we should learn to analyze the source of the problem and ask how, when and why it occurred in the first place. It could probably be that you screwed up in some point and thus were rewarded with such undesirable results. Learn to realize the mistakes and shortcomings you've done before jumping into conclusions. Ask yourself with questions such as "Did I do something wrong?" "Was there something lacking in my efforts before?" and any other kind of questions in relation to your problems. Doing this would give you a firsthand advantage in formulating an early solution for your problem.
2. Next, be a positive thinker! Mourning and weeping forever won't get you any closer to your goal. Always be optimist to whatever things that may come into your life (Whether good things or bad things) Thinking positively not only boosts your self-confidence but the confidence of other people in you as well. This would in turn gives you less reason to blame things for a certain mistake.
3. Next, learn to understand your limits. Know the boundaries of your skills and character, emphasize on things you can do and less-emphasize on those you know you can never do. By doing this, you can make the best decisions in life and maximize the talent and capabilities you possessed. Thus giving you enough reason not to doubt most of the actions you do.  
4. Next, as already aforementioned learn to face your responsibilities. Be courageous enough in facing every (or just most if not possible) obstacles in your path. Running away from your problems will not help you in becoming successful with your goal. In order to become better, each and everyone of us must learn to overcome hardships by facing numerous trials in life.
5. And lastly, do something about your mistakes and shortcomings! Okay, so you screwed up big time...then do something about it! Don't let regrets and doubts gets the best of you! Doing something about your mistakes is much better than doing nothing at all. Formulating a definite solution in your problems gives you less reason to blame others or something.

Okay, yes I know that what I've wrote here may have been easier said than done. I'll admit that I'm as guilty as everyone of you are with regards to this attitude of blaming others or things. But what I've wrote here is mostly based from my own personal experience of several scenarios in life. Probably like some or most of you, I don't like to experience problems and would likely blame whenever things went wrong. But as I progress the chapters of my life, I've started to realized every word I've wrote here and started to experience things  much better than ever before. So I just figured that it would be best to share those learnings to each and everyone of you who are reading this. Besides it wouldn't hurt to learn something from someone right?

-Alvin Reyes